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We’re working with a lot of leaders and teams right now who are tired — genuinely, deeply tired — and doing their best not to show it.

They’re delivering. They’re showing up. They’re hitting their targets. And underneath all of that, something is quietly wearing thin.

When we ask what support is in place, the answer is usually some version of the same thing: a wellbeing program, an EAP, maybe a session on managing stress. All well-intentioned. All aimed at helping individuals cope better with the conditions they’re in.

Which is precisely the problem.

Resilience isn’t a personal challenge. It’s a leadership one.

For a long time, the dominant narrative around resilience has placed the responsibility firmly with the individual — build your capacity, manage your mindset, develop your coping strategies. If you’re struggling, the gap is yours to close.

The research, however, has been telling a different story for decades.

Christina Maslach, whose work on burnout is among the most cited in the field, identified six key drivers of burnout — and only one of them is about the individual. The other five are organisational: workload, control, reward, community, fairness and values alignment. Her conclusion, reached after more than 40 years of research, is unambiguous: burnout is not a people problem. It is a workplace problem.

Neuroscientist Bruce McEwen’s research on allostatic load — the cumulative wear on the brain and body from sustained stress — shows us what happens when people operate without adequate recovery. It isn’t that they become tougher over time. The cognitive functions that matter most under pressure — decision-making, emotional regulation, perspective-taking — are precisely the ones that degrade. Asking people to be more resilient while maintaining the conditions that deplete them doesn’t build capacity. It borrows against it.

And Amy Edmondson’s now landmark research at Google — Project Aristotle — found that the single greatest predictor of high team performance wasn’t talent, tenure or technical skill. It was psychological safety: the belief that you can speak up, flag a problem, or say “this is too much” without fear of judgement or consequence.

The conversations that protect teams

What this tells us is that genuine resilience — the kind that sustains performance over time — is built not through individual grit, but through the quality of the environment leaders create.

Specifically, it requires teams where people can have the conversations that most teams aren’t having.

I’m not coping with this workload. I don’t have the clarity I need to do this well. Something is wrong here and I’m not sure it’s safe to say so.

These conversations are the early warning system for burnout. When they can’t happen — when the culture, the leadership style or the pace makes them feel too risky — the pressure doesn’t disappear. It just goes underground. And by the time it surfaces, it’s significantly harder to address.

The leaders making the biggest difference right now are the ones actively creating the conditions for these conversations. Not by holding a meeting about resilience, but by asking better questions. By responding to honesty with curiosity rather than defensiveness. By modelling the kind of openness they want their teams to practice.

Researcher Sabine Sonnentag’s work on recovery and performance adds another layer: teams that build genuine psychological detachment — real rest, not just time away from the desk — show significantly better sustained performance, lower burnout rates and stronger problem-solving capacity than those who pride themselves on always being “on.” Recovery isn’t a reward for high performance. It’s a prerequisite for it.

A question worth sitting with

If you lead a team, the most important resilience question you can ask right now isn’t “how resilient are my people?”

It’s: have I created the conditions where they can tell me when something isn’t working?

If the honest answer is “I’m not sure,” that’s where the work begins.

How we can help

At Brockhurst, we work with leadership teams and organisations to build the foundations that make performance genuinely sustainable — through leadership development, team effectiveness programs and culture work that addresses root causes, not symptoms.

If resilience, burnout risk, or psychological safety is on your agenda for the second half of 2026, we’d love to have a conversation about what’s possible.

Book a free 30-minute discovery call →

You’re not alone. We’ve been working with Team Leaders at a cyber security company, and we discovered something fascinating: most of us feel like being a good manager means having all the answers, right now.

After all, our to-do lists are screaming, and fixing things fast feels efficient.

But here’s the thing – it’s not.

Enter the EAR method (developed by Jathan Janove): Explore, Acknowledge, Respond.

Three simple steps that completely reframe conversations for more effective outcomes  Here is what it’s about.

 Explore: Ask open-ended questions. “What do you think?” “How do you see it?” “What else?” Keep asking until they’ve shared everything that matters to them. 

Acknowledge: Confirm you understand. “So if I’m hearing you correctly…” “Your main concern is… Is that right?” This isn’t just repeating back – it’s showing you actually get it. 

Respond: Only now do you share your perspective – applying what you understand from the former two steps. And here’s the magic – your response will be 10x better because you actually have the full picture.  At this stage you may not even need to add anything further but simply confirm what they need to do or think about next.  

The shift? You move from being the font of all wisdom to being a producer of wisdom in your team.

When people feel genuinely heard, something changes. They’re more receptive. They’re more honest. They solve their own problems more often. And you stop making decisions based on assumptions (that may not be accurate).

One Team Leader told me: “I prided myself on having quick solutions to technical issues. Now I pride myself on better questions.”

Try it this week: Pick one conversation where you’d normally jump in with a solution. Instead, explore and acknowledge first. See what happens.

Your team doesn’t need you to be the smartest person in the room. They need you to help them be smarter.

What’s your biggest challenge when it comes to really listening?